Optimism is a Fool's Paradise

I favour pessimism, not because I am bitter, but because I choose to see life as it is. 

Everything we see, everything we possess, and everything we build is destined to tarnish one day. People change, success fades and even empires that once looked permanent eventually turn to dust. To deny this truth is to live in a fool's paradise.  

Optimism often tells us to shut our eyes and hope that nothing will go wrong. How can you say nothing will go wrong when you can see emperors falling, people changing and your body going near to decay and death? No, we don't need this kind of optimism. It is worse than opium or liquor because they will only destroy your body, however, such kind of optimism will destroy you from inside. It will kill your natural drive to seek your true Self that is beyond decay and death. It will make you like a dove who closes it's eyes when it sees the cat coming to eat it. No, we can never be like the dove! How can we? We are human beings. And only the souls living in human body can know their very origin i.e. The Pure Consciousness. Only this is the reason I favour Pessimism. It tells us to keep our eyes open and be prepared for the worst or at least be ready for it . It is not the enemy of happiness. It is the shield against disappointment.  And mind you, all great people of past felt disappointed during the last span of their lives no matter either they were kings, warriors, politicians, leaders or those who possessed utmost wealth and honour. Why? Because they keep looking outside. They don't have courage to move inward. 

And when we accept that nothing lasts, we stop clinging. We stop looking the outside world which is subject to decay. And now we stop fearing loss. We begin to value the present without trying to own it forever.  

This is not hopelessness. This is clarity because once you understand that everything is temporary, you stop being controlled by it. And in that understanding, you find a quiet, unshakable peace and then you get the glimpse of that which is not, that which can never be touched, that which can never be tarnished, that which can never be affected by anyone or anything. And that is thou thyself.  Know thyself and stop thinking...

From Jiva Aatma to Param Aatma: The Journey Within

When a person is attached to worldly possessions and is driven by endless desires, that person is called a Jivatma*. The Jivatma identifies with the body, with relationships, with status, and with things that are temporary and because of this attachment, the mind remains restless and bound to the cycle of endless longings and suffering.

When one turns inward through devotion, Gyan*, Yoga*, or Dhyan*, the desires begin to dissolve. By understanding the true nature of life, one realizes that the world is transient and nothing here is permanent. This realization marks the beginning of the journey toward the Aatman*, the Eternal Self. The Aatman is not bound by name, form, or time. It is Pure  Consciousness, and this is what the scriptures call Sanatan* - the Eternal.

When one goes beyond the awareness of the Aatman and enters in deep meditation, one begins to experience the Avyakta*, the Un-manifested, the Undescribed. It cannot be defined in words, because it is beyond form and thought.

And when one goes even deeper, beyond the Avyakta, through intense devotion or meditation, one catches only a glimpse of the Absolute — Purusha*, Om*. This Om* is Param Aatma*, the Supreme Self, from which everything arises and into which everything dissolves.

From core, we all are that Pure Cosmic Consciousness i.e. Param Aatma who can never be preceived through the mortal five senses and if we truly want to go back to our very origin, the only thing we need to do is to stop doing anything. Stop thinking...

Reference: 

Katha Upanishad

My Reflections

Through my experiences as a parent, teacher, and once a curious child myself, I have observed that boys and girls may sometimes express their energy, emotions, and curiosity differently. Many boys appear more energetic, adventurous, restless, and inclined to test boundaries. They may find it difficult to sit in one place for long periods and often respond better to patience, understanding, and encouragement than to force or excessive control.

Girls, on the other hand, are often observed to develop a sense of responsibility, patience, and maturity at an earlier age. They may appear more settled, organised, and careful in certain situations. However, these are only general observations, not fixed rules. Every child is unique, and personality is shaped by temperament, upbringing, experiences, and environment—not by gender alone.

I have also noticed that many boys gradually become more responsible, patient, calm, and quiet as they grow older. The same energy and curiosity that may make them mischievous or restless in childhood can later develop into courage, determination, creativity, independence, and a strong sense of responsibility. With time, experience, guidance, and understanding, their youthful restlessness often matures into stillness and inner strength.

Observing my son has made me look back on my own childhood. I, too, was very naughty, curious, and adventurous, and my curiosity often led me into trouble. Now I realise how patient, loving, and wise my parents and teachers were. They understood my nature, tolerated my mistakes, guided me patiently, and helped me grow.

Today, as a parent and a teacher, I understand their efforts much more deeply. I realise that raising and guiding a curious, energetic child requires immense patience, wisdom, understanding, and love. I shall always remain indebted to my parents and teachers for their sacrifices, guidance, patience, and the values they gave me.

From My Diary (June 5, 2025)

June 5, 2025

During my journey to discover the potential of my mind and its willpower, from 2022 onwards when I was diagnosed with Degenerative Disc Disease and Disc Bulge, I realised that real strength is not about being quite muscular, as I used to be. Instead, real strength lies in our mind, which can endure pain, face criticism, humiliations, and derogatory remarks in addition to the pain we bear silently. I do not have any complaints against them, as they made me stronger than before, not physically but mentally. Some give you memories, some life lessons, and both are important.

From My Diary

Okay, so it was 2007-08, and I was hard to manipulate and influence in my second year of B.A., attending every single class with Satya Narayan Panday, which is pretty hilarious if you ask me. Meanwhile, our classmates were developing the habit of skipping classes and expected us to join their group, because, you know, who needs education? But then, Panday got influenced by them and started skipping a class or two, and I was like, what's next, are we going to start skipping showers too? Things took a dramatic turn when a classmate threatened to spread a rumor that I was having an affair with a girl so that I could be suspended from the college. And they actually did it during our Political Science class with Professor Sunil Aggarwal Sir, who, by the way, is a total boss. His response? He burst out laughing and said it was impossible, even offering 2000 Rupees to anyone who could prove it, which is basically like saying, I'll give you 2000 Rupees if you can prove that buffalos can fly.

Self Healing

Self healing starts from thee.

You may feel drained 

but learn to be glee.

Deep inside thee

dwells eternal smile can't ye see, 

said the Mighty Warrior to ye

Para Shakti: Maa Sita

Maa Sita, the incarnation of Parashakti was extremely powerful and the source of all kinds of knowledge. One of the anecdotes of her life mentioned in Ramayana and Ramchritramanas; When she lifted Shiv Dhanush in her childhood, her father Raja Janak saw this. He was surprised and amazed because it could not be lifted by great warriors even. On that day, he decided that only that person would be suitable for Her as a groom who could lift Shiv Dhanush. 

And when the day of Maa Sita's marriage arrived, Shree Ram, the incarnation of Parbrahamn lifted the great Shiv Dhanush and got married with Maa Sita. 

Later, when Shree Ram went for Vanvas in the further part of the story, He implored Maa Sita to dwell inside the fire because if She would be with Him, then Ravan must have been died on the moment when he endeavoured to touch Her. 

Then, a layman can't be inspired that anyone who is in the path of truthfulness can be victorious in the end. 

This is just a way of the Director and the Producer of the Cosmos, the Param Brahman to tell us that anyone who walks on the path of righteousness will become successful in the end. 

So if you are struggling in spite of being right, then it simply means pichar abhi baki hei mere dost....